When it’s Time

How do you know when it’s time?
Time to go
Or time to stop
How do you know when it’s time?
Time to fight
Or time to give in

How do you know when it’s time?
Time to listen
Or time to speak

How do you know?
How?
Only time will tell

Have a nice Tuesday!

Love,
Charlotte

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In The End

Always on the move
Straight from point a to z
No time
To take a moment
To stop
And catch your breath
To you
I pose this question:
Was it worth it
In the end?

Have a nice Saturday!

Love,
Charlotte

What do you want?

For some reason, this question has been floating through my head a lot lately. It’s probably because of the IT traineeship I’ve started recently. This traineeship focuses on self-discovery and self-improvement as well as achieving ambitious work goals. However, to truly move forward and make improvements you need a goal. And in order to set a goal you need to know what you want! How else are you supposed to accomplish anything?

While beginning this new journey, I’ve realised that that this question is almost impossible to answer. I mean, how do you even begin to explain what you want? Some days I really want pizza for dinner, other days I want nothing more than to travel all around the world. Some days I wish I had been more brave and other days I wish I had said nothing at all.

As you can see, I’ve spend way too much time thinking about this. I did come to some interesting discoveries, though. Setting a goal at the end of the horizon can be really inspiring, but you need some smaller goals along the way if you want to keep moving forward. There are people in life who crawl their way out of the whomb knowing exactly what they want, others need some more time, and some will never really know at all. In the end it doesn’t really matter. Stop worrying about the end. All you need is a little victory waiting just around the corner.

Let me explain!

Focusing on the big picture will just get overwhelming. So instead, I’ve started giving myself small goals, little accomplishments with big celebrations. Sometimes it’s something as simple as only taking the stairs for the day. Other times I try to challenge myself to really step outside of my comfort zone. However, make sure the goal is concrete. You don’t want to have to convince yourself that you really accomplished to goal at the end of the day.

For example, talk to that intimidating colleague, is a lot more concrete than do something that scares you. And go for a 30 min run works a lot better than get some exercise!

You also don’t want to over do it. Stick to one goal a day. That’s it! Just make sure that it fits around that corner and you’re good to go!

What do you do when you don’t accomplish the goal? No worries, there’s always another corner ahead. Set the same goal for the next day or write it down and try some other time. Maybe you just weren’t ready yet! And there is such a long road ahead, you don’t want to rush it.

So, I ask you! Want do you want?

Have a nice Friday!

Love,
Charlotte

The Colours of Winter

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A white dust covers the earth
While the green grass slowly disappears

A grey cold has taken over
While red warmth hides inside

Yet,
The yellow sun shines bright
While the blue sky mirrors the sea

Some fear this winter landscape
While I look forward to it, every year

Have a nice Saturday!

Dear USA,

ThoughtfulThursday #3

Dear USA,

The world is watching
The same news story
Of another school shooting
In the United States

We’ve seen the story
So many times before
And wonder
When will you change

Your children are dying
And still you do nothing
We cannot understand
How you keep making the same mistake

How many more have to die
For you to realise
That weapons are not equal
To the life of a child

Fighting violence with violence
And hate with hate
Is not the solution
But the problem

Please listen to your children
Who live in fear
Every time
They go to school

I’m watching
Yet again, the same news story
Of another school shooting
In the United States

I’ve seen the story
So many times before
And wonder
When will it end?

Love,
The Netherlands

Have a nice Thursday!

 

Be a Quitter!

Thinking-out-loud-Tuesday #5

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It’s time for another stream of consciousness post. No editing, just writing my thoughts as they slip into my head.

Have you ever been really excited to start something new, only to realise it wasn’t what you expected? Maybe it was a new subject at university, a new relationship, a new job, or maybe something as simple as a new book. You look forward to it for so long and you can’t wait to get started. But then it just feels wrong. At first you try to convince yourself that maybe you haven’t given it enough time. You haven’t tried hard enough. You keep going, but it just keeps getting worse. You finally admit to yourself that this wasn’t what you wanted, but you still keep going. You can’t just quit. Quitting would somehow feel like failure. And nobody wants to feel like a failure.

I’ve recently had this experience. I started something new and was really excited about it, but after one day I knew something felt wrong. I tried to keep going, but nothing changed. I kept telling myself to stop whining and to stop feeling sorry for myself. I wasn’t just going to quit.

But… Why is it such a bad thing to quit? I was feeling miserable, but was willing to keep going just because I didn’t want to be a quitter. I was willing to sacrifice my happiness for something I hated.

I eventually did come to my senses. I can’t even begin to describe the relief I felt after I decided to stop. A weight was lifted off my shoulders.

Don’t get me wrong. We all have to do things we don’t like sometimes. But we also have to be honest to ourselves about what we want our lives to be like. Life should be about the pursuit of our own happiness, not about being miserable because we’re too stubborn to give up.

So I’m saying it out loud: It’s okay to quit!

Don’t let your life be destroyed by one bad decision. Learn from your mistakes and keep moving forward.

I mostly wrote this post for myself. I really needed to hear these words. But I hope this post can help someone else be brave too. Quitting isn’t about failure, it’s about being brave enough to follow your instincts!

Just listen!

Have a nice Tuesday!

Photo credit: airpix

We promised him

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‘I wish we could go back,’ her sister said while wiping the tears of her face. ‘Maybe we could’ve saved him.’

She couldn’t see her sister who was sitting in the tree next to hers, but she knew she was crying. Their father had never stood a chance against the soldiers, but nevertheless he had not given up. He fought valiantly as was his nature. She wished she could’ve helped him too, but his instructions were clear. They were to run as fast as they could, while he tried to buy them some more time. He was supposed to meet them here. But that was two days ago. Her younger sister had refused to leave. She still had hope.

‘Wishing for the past to change is futile,’ she finally said. ‘The past is stubborn and unmoving. Wishes for a better future, however, may yet come true.’

‘We should have stayed and fought,’ her sister said. ‘We left him to die!’

‘It’s time to go, Jane,’ she said firmly.

‘Just a little longer,’ Jane begged.

‘There’s no time,’ she said. ‘The soldiers are searching the woods. And we promised him.’

Have a nice Sunday!

Photo credit: Chris Wenger